By Cally Logan, Crosswalk.com
When it comes to prayer, we often find ourselves in a very present mindset, meaning we pray for the things that immediately need Divine intervention, protection, or direction. There is nothing wrong with praying for things that are right in front of us, but how often do we consider praying for things or people yet to come in our lives? Why is it important to pray for someone you have never met, like a future spouse?
A Seed of Desire Planted in Your Heart
Marriage is not for everyone, but if you have given your heart over to the Lord in submission and the desire to be married is within you, God has likely planted that seed for a reason. You may not know the day you will meet or the exact way the story will come to be, but there will be peace in knowing that marriage is for you one day. Believe it or not, God is even more concerned with your future marriage than you are, which is why it is so important to invite God into the process. When we surrender the control of trying to write the story, it is only then that we can allow God to bring forward His ultimate will and very best. As Charles Stanley wisely said, “Anything acquired outside of God’s Will eventually will turn to ash,” and that statement has profound truth. God always has your best interest at heart, and even if you have made mistakes in the past, He can turn around any story. Invite God to guide your path; surely, He will make your path straight.
Your Spouse Is Out There
Your spouse is out there living, breathing, working, and doing life. They also need your prayers because you never know what they might be facing in this very present moment. Prayer is such a gift given to us by God because it allows for direct communication with the Maker of all that is, was, and will be one-on-one. The Lord is the only one who can change anything for the better, and His hand in things can part seas and refine souls. Ask the Lord to make your heart and spirit sensitive to how to pray for your future spouse. He may give you specific verses to ponder and pray for your future partner or list refining qualities that He is working on in them. Consider writing these down and putting the date on them; you may be surprised one day to see that precisely what God was placing upon your heart to pray was needed and necessary for your spouse during that season. Believe that God is intentional with how He is leading and working in you both, and He is always on time.
Write Them Letters
Consider writing your future spouse letters. When I was eighteen, I began writing letters to my future husband. When I began writing them, I was graduating from High School, and life was changing rapidly. It was evident to me that my future honey was not in my life, but I so eagerly wanted him to be a part of all the exciting shifts and changes happening daily. I concluded that if he couldn’t be there in person, I could capture the memories, stories, and journeys in the way of letters for him, like a message in a bottle. These preserved events were written in the different stages of my life, and they provided a snapshot of the girl I was that was ever growing into the woman I would become. What was evident in the course of the letters is how my faith matured and how my desires became less about the immediate gratification of selfish wants. My desires instead grew to be that which God was tenderly planting within me. The letters inspired my book, Dear Future Husband, which encourages women of any age to their own God Authored stories.
Put into Practice
As a spouse, you will need to pray daily for your spouse, so it is important to begin that practice before you even know this person. We are called to pray for one another. Especially as a spouse, lifting your earthly dearest up in prayer as often as possible is vital. When you start any sort of habit, cultivating, fostering, and growing will take time, but the sooner you start, the more routine it will become. Start with praying for them in the morning or right before bed and see how God will give you a heart for your future spouse even before you meet them.
It is a beautiful honor to intercede and pray for another person, especially someone with whom you will share a name and life. Starting this practice early will help you one day as you transition from girlfriend/boyfriend into marriage. Consider asking God what other practices you can do for this person even now; what He answers may surprise you. Know that your prayers matter to God and your future spouse; nothing is ever wasted.
Dear Future Husband will be available June 1, 2023; everywhere books are sold. If you are someone who has the desire to be married and to be prepared not only to be a wife but to fully embrace the becoming of who God destined you to be, this book is especially for you. It encourages and highlights practical lifestyle practices and techniques in preparation for becoming a wife. It also inspires women as they come into a deeper relationship with God.
You can find Cally's book here!
Cally Logan is an author and US History teacher from Richmond, Virginia. In her free time, she enjoys mentoring youth and spending time in nature. She is the author of Hang on in There, Girl! and Dear Future Husband: A Love Letter Journey While Waiting for God's Best. Check her out on Instagram and Twitter, @CallyLogan and TikTok Cally_Logan.